Does "past away" have to be in a physical sense or can it be metaphorical? 'Cause people do change, they can either change into nasty, selfish and absurd human beings or they can just physically die. Well... I guess it doesn't exactly matter whatsoever though right?
Lets see, the only person I can think of who has physically died is my cousin. I wasn't exactly close with her though, because when she passed away I was about 5 or so. As for dying in a metaphorical sense, I would have to say my ex. For many reasons that I truly wish to not speak about.
Its dreadful thinking about the past though. Thats all they want to focus about here at the hospital. "What got you here?" "What are significant events in your life that have influenced you to change in such a dramatic way?" "Blah blah blah you have problems and its all in the past now" You would think that being here they would want to focus on the now, the present, instead of the past. The past is nothing but regret for me. At least over the past few weeks thats what it seems like. Bleh. I'm losing my train of thought. new blog.
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Thursday, May 28, 2009
Hmm... someone who has past away?
Posted by Tinix at 12:43 PM
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Nowadays, I marvel at the fact that I have former students who are 26 years old and some students that I am twice as old as. Someone recently told me that there was no one in a movie they watched that was a famous actor and to me, they were all familiar-- which dates me. My past seems to be so expansive and yet my memories are spotty. Right now, it sounds like your life is amplified and the professionals are spotlighting those events. I have two thoughts: 1. They don't know you in a 3 dimensional way and our history provides an important backdrop and 2. sometimes we are clouded about how to perceive or understand our history and another perspective can be insightful. 3. I remember hating my first therapist for the very same vexing reasons you state. There's sometimes a marvelous contradiction to talking about our issues. Usually, a person wants safe emotional space from trauma before they speak about it and yet, sometimes that trauma prompts a response that is immediate. My thought: at the core of what you're doing right now is your own personal work and you are your very greatest advocate and expert. There are skilled and caring professionals who may guide and illuminate things, but think of this process are something you can own. Too preachy? Sorry! Tell me to reign it in if you like:)
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